Learning the hard way
Whether it’s learning to (better) taste wine, how to network, or learning to code, learning on your own isn’t only the best way, it’s (really) the only way that really works.
Take risks. Make mistakes. Learn from them. Repeat.
If you’re too lazy, stubborn or afraid to learn (or rather to teach yourself) the hard way, it’s hard to see how you’ll ever get the results you seek.