Blaming vs. taking responsibility

It can be tempting to resent the world and your place in it. Because then you can blame someone else (or society at large) for your lack of skills or opportunities.

You can become indifferent to making your world bigger by inculcating the idea that you’re a victim. That the world has failed you, that everyone is against you, or that there’s no point in trying because you have no shot at success.

Of course, it’s ridiculous to believe that the world is against you, personally. To say that no one will hire you, date you, mentor you, befriend you, promote you, or buy from you.

It’s not indifferent to you. It’s merely indifferent to your incompetence.

It doesn’t care about your lack of good gene’s or your introverted personality or that you didn’t get the best education possible. It’s doesn’t acknowledge that you didn’t win any of the thousands of other lotteries that could have given you a leg up.

No, the people reading your resume or browsing your dating profile or making the decision about whether or not you’ll make the cut, they’re not against you.

They’re just oblivious to your story.

The question to reckon with, then, isn’t whether or not other people (should) care about your seeming lack of opportunity.

The question to ask is: are working on your skills, or are you solely regurgitating your bitterness?